I read the reading assignment for today but there wasn’t anything, really, that I wanted to discuss from it. Instead, I wanted to talk about some of the agreements that we have discussed in class.
Agreement #1: Be impeccable with your word.
Agreement #1 is probably the hardest one for me. I stumble over my own words a lot when I’m speaking (which is probably due to my status as someone with mental illness), which causes me to take shortcuts in speaking. These shortcuts cause my words to be easily misunderstood a lot of the time. The problem is that I don’t realize that I’ve taken a shortcut until afterward. It has caused problems in my social life and in my professional life. So I have been trying to slow down with my words in order to communicate effectively.
Agreement #2: Don’t take anything personally.
Agreement #2 is not that difficult for me. It’s easy for me to put myself in the shoes of others and realize that the things they are saying and doing are not necessarily meant to hurt me or anything like that. With job interviews, if I don’t get the job, I can understand: I just wasn’t the right fit for the job at the time. I think that feeling hurt by the words or actions of your colleagues, supervisors, and supervises is a normal thing, though, just as long as it doesn’t start to really affect your job performance or your professional self.
Agreement #3: Don’t make assumptions.
Agreement #3 is both easy and difficult for me. I am good at not assuming a person’s identity or their experiences because I know that by looking at me, a lot of people would not necessarily know my identities. But when it comes to other situations, I do have the habit of assuming the worst.
This week, our agreement, Agreement #4 is Always do your best.
This is an agreement that I’ve had with myself since I was very young. I always attempt to do my best. It took me a really long time to figure out that my best wasn’t always going to be the best, though. Doing your best can mean getting a B in a really difficult class or just making it to the finish line in a race. It doesn’t mean always making 100% or winning the race.